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Reinvigorated!!

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Back in May of this year, I had started back to school…at MY age! I guess it’s never too late  I’ve had many dreams and have accomplished a few, but those few have been the BEST! I got married and had kids.  I’ve also wanted be a radio broadcaster. I believe I would do very well in this area, I’ve always been told, “You give good phone,” so that says something, huh? LOL I’ve also wanted to become a Paralegal in the field of Family Law, especially after experiencing what my husband and I went through in our lives. I’m on the road to that, attending college studyig Paralegal Studies. If I stay focused, I will be graduating August 1, 2014 with my AA in Paralegal Studies.  This was almost not going to happen. I got so frustrated with a teacher I had last term, that I almost called it quit. I passed the class with a 96%, but it was hard fought for. I started this new term, we are into the 3rd week, I’m behind already in two classes, I have faith I will catch up, but I feel like I’m just not…

Someone Had To Do It, LOL

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Inquiring Minds Want To Know, LMAO

Very Catchy Tune....

Where Do You Live Again?

She talked about selling the house, so she can get out of paying the mortgage so she and the kids can live. She said they would move into an apartment, less expensive. All this talk was in 1990. In April 1991, she signs a Grant Deed over to another couple.  In October 1991, she sends a letter to hubby, with a return address of the house she sold. In May of 1992, she sends a handwritten letter to my husband’s employer regarding an  issue she was having with child support payments she was receiving. The address she listed as her home address? The house she sold. Again, on February 12, 1993, she sends another letter (she actually sent several) to my husband’s employer advising them that she needed to change her name and her address as she has gotten married. First of all, she didn’t get married until feb 20, 1993. Secondly, why did she list her old address as the house she sold in April of 1991? She never moved. She kept the money from the sale of the house, and continued living there until F…

Strange....

Hubby recieved a letter from ex, postmarked, 10/11/91. The return address? Their former home, the one she signed a Grant Deed on. ALL that hoopla in the previous years letters, about the house and selling the house, and moving into an apartment was all talk. From the information we found out, Ex sold the house to one couple. That couple sold the house to a gentleman, in 1992, and the gentleman sold the house to yet another couple in 1993. The ex NEVER moved from the house,  until Feb 1993, when she left to get married and move out of state with her new husband.

Move Away laws

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Please, Non Custodial Parents, get everything in writing, keep that paper trail, and FIGHT FOR YOUR KIDS! It's bad enough they are apart from you due to the divorce, but to have them taken away from you, because the CP just wants to, should not be allowed, or if allowed, should have some financial strings attached to it for the CP...  

Not just an ATM...

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PROTECT your babies!!!

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This book really came in handy when my husband was alive and going through all the hassles and heartaches dealing with his angry ex wife and trying to see his kids...

Fake....

"Thank You God ! Blessings from Heaven !.... Cant praise God enough ! : )" 

This is part of a public status I read yesterday. In between the ... were comments about a car (2008 Altima) who's engine light came on about a month ago, but the poster nor his wife who had just retired earlier in the year, had no money to fix it. Then yeseterday, they got a recall letter from Nissan, to do the repairs on the emissions control and sensors. Nissan will also cover any and all damage caused by the defect including cracked manifold, and the service engine problem with a new transmission, all at no charge.

Saturn took care of their customers as well. I'm sure Toyota will too, as that is what I drive now. HOWEVER, what's with all the religious talk? Knowing this person who wrote the status, it seems SO ODD to read this, as just days before, this person was falsely accusing me of nonsense. 

I give thanks for any and all blessings, every day, no matter what. I guess certain people …

SO apropo....

All About Pisces Pisces are ONLY cold hearted, when they have put their heart's on the line to see it was all games...https://www.facebook.com/aboutpisces?hc_location=stream

A Vent... Family....

On Feb 23, 2006, My former stepdaughter, in a MySpace email to me, "...Oh, and how about leaving the D......S (my last name) alone...you are NOT and NEVER have been a part of us..."
Well, first of all, I married her dad, in May 1996, and was married to him until the day he died, in Nov 2005, so that DOES make me part of the "D.......S." I was HIS wife.
Secondly, I could really care less what she has ever thought of me, but what I find incredible is that NONE of the "D......S" have come forth to ask about my son, who is BLOOD related and part of the "D......S" in about 7 of the 8 yrs that my husband has been dead. They have never taken him for the weekend to talk to him, to help him deal with his dad's death, to continue a relationship with him, to make him feel "part of the D......S." Every time I tried to set up a time to see some of the D......S, especially during the time my son was having a really hard time, it was never a good…

Black Sheep....BAAA BAAA

I love it when "family" throws out false accusations about you, "in public" (ie: public FB profile) but don't have the balls to answer your questions in private emails. When I show what's already public on my wall, and make my comments, I get questioned, about my motive's when the "questioner" never even saw what prompted my response,but they "aren't taking sides." What am I doing to "famiy" in public, where his children (grown adults) can see?" I replied with how the question should be turned around, what is "famiy" doing to me, in public, where MY children, (20 and 16 yrs old) can see"  it was then that I discovered the questioner didn't even see the original post, just my "copy/paste" of it. Apology accepted. Copy/paste...right, next time, I will take a picture of it and post it so that there will be solid proof as to what I am responding to. I have no reason to lie, and I did email…

Because... I Hate Ignorance

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HOLY MOTHER OF GOD!!!! Could it BE true??? the FOUNDING FATHERS turned THEIR backs on THEIR RACE!? WHAT!?

Our FOUNDING FATHERS....
https://www.google.com/search?q=founding+fathers+having+affairs+with+slaves&rlz=1C1RNVH_enUS539US539&oq=founding+fathers+having+affairs+with+slaves&aqs=chrome..69i57.20401j0&sourceid=chrome&ie=UTF-8

Mildred and Richard Loving....
https://www.aclu.org/racial-justice/loving-v-virginia-case-over-interracial-marriage





Thomas -Alexander Dumas
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas-Alexandre_Dumas

"...Alexandre Dumas was of mixed race, the son of a white French nobleman and a black slave mother. He was born into slavery because of his mother's status but was also born into nobility because of his father's...."




http://www.thedailybeast.com/articles/2012/10/14/barack-obama-s-forgotten-founding-father-in-revolutionary-france.html

Thomas Alexandre Dumas (Hulton Archive-Getty Images)

Water Is Thicker Than Blood....

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My older brother, Tony, put this up on his "PUBLIC" Facebook wall. Since we are "friends," it popped up in my news feed, and I responded. Isn't that what we can do on FB? Share thoughts, feelings, ideas, what and dialogue? Apparently not.

When I responded to this, I wrote that I disagreed with this. I said thatraising children on God and his word is a parental choice, not a government decision/choice, hence, the separation of church and state. Not all the founding fathers believed the same, and some of them had slaves. That's a fact. Where does God and his word say THAT is right? 

Instead of dialogue, I was completely taken aback when my brother responded in such a manner, that was uncalled for. Instead of expressing his VIEW on what I wrote, he decided to go the total opposite way. He wrote, "Who FN cares what you disagree with Patricia . You turned your back long ago on Family , God and Race . Im done with your racism and self perceived political vie…

For you....

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For ALL you "women and guy" who seem to take issue with the size of my ass... ;-)

Peace...

I know my husband dealt with this type of ex wife...WOW...

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/kate-scharff/end-the-drama-find-peace_b_3451612.html


"I want to co-parent with my ex, but his emails are out of control! Last week he sent a ten-pager -- ten words of which were about the kids. How can I make him understand I don't want to talk about 'us' anymore?" "My ex hates that I'm dating. She calls incessantly to "check in." If she can't reach me, she leaves messages telling me what a bad father I am!" "Last night my ex texted to ask what I was feeding the kids for dinner. Before I knew it I'd fired back: 'None of your damn business!'" Sound familiar? It might not make logical sense, but it's true: If your ex pounces on every opportunity to lure you into a fraught exchange, they're having a hard time letting go. After all, if they can keep you emotionally engaged -- even against your will -- they can avoid the pai…

Regardless....

Regardless of the fact that my children and I have been banned from most of my deceased husband's family, I wish his niece, Brianna, continued health...

http://eastcountymagazine.org/node/10599

Deadbeat

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Pay your damn child support! My daughter is now 20. This started racking up when she was 12-13 yrs old. This was also the 2nd time I opened the case against her bio father. It opened a week before my husband, the man that RAISED HER, died. I get $10 a month towards this amount. I guarantee you, he did this on purpose. He let all the child support payments go to arrears so he would only have to pay $10 a month. My daughter will have babies of her own because a significant dent is made on this owed amount...#prick #deadbeat




My RANT for the day...

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Some things just get on my nerve, quick fast and in a HURRY!




Same Love by Macklemore

This is such a POWERFUL song!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hlVBg7_08n0

http://rapgenius.com/Macklemore-same-love-lyrics

When I was in the 3rd grade
I thought that I was gay
Cause I could draw, my uncle was
And I kept my room straight
I told my mom, tears rushing down my face
She's like, "Ben, you've loved girls since before Pre-K!"
Tripping, yeah, I guess she had a point, didn't she?
A bunch of stereotypes all in my head
I remember doing the math, like
"Yeah, I'm good at little league"
A pre-conceived idea of what it all meant
For those that like the same sex had the characteristics
The right-wing conservatives think it's a decision
And you can be cured with some treatment and religion
Man-made, rewiring of a pre-disposition, playing God
Ahh, nah, here we go
America the brave still fears what we don't know
And "God loves all his children" is somehow forgotten
But we paraphrase a book written thirty-five hundred years ago
I don't know

[Hook: Mary La…

That's RIGHT!!!

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To all the Parental Alienators out there...yes, including YOU!!!

Horrible...

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Had a very emotional day, my heart breaks for our friend and NO ONE should go through the bullshit he was put through today, that I experienced first hand. It was horrible to see him being chased down like a dog and caged, (held against his will) by his family and have the police called. He has said how they treat him, and to see and hear it actually happen was horrible. I'm glad he is 18, I'm GLAD the police reminded his parents this, I'm glad he was online looking for a job, and I told him to use this experience today as empowerment to get a job and get the HELL away from the environment he is currently in. I also told him we are a phone call away, and when he calls, we'll be there, it was horrible...simply horrible....I'm hopeful things will work out for him, and he can get out of there, but I still feel just bad for him. — feeling sad.

Parental Alienation

Oh yes, my husband and myself (proxy) have experienced this very ugly thing http://herviewfromhome.com/parental-alienation-after-divorce/

HAPPY FATHER'S DAY 2013

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HAPPY FATHER'S DAY to two of the most important men in my life...my husband Keith, who is an Angel celebrating this special day, and to my fiance, Kai, who stepped in and continued where Keith left off. I LOVE YOU BOTH so very much!  I love you Keith for being the great dad the kids and I knew you to be, thank you for bringing Kai into our lives, and I love you, Kai for ALWAYS being there for the kids and I, no matter what! You BOTH, stepped into the role of helping to raise another man's child/children, without reservations, without "titles," and without blood linkage. You did so from your HEART  and there is a special place in Heaven for "Dad's" like you both!




CONGRATULATIONS are in order...

Congratulations are in order for my oldest former stepdaughter! Seems she got married in late August 2011, and in April this year, was 5 weeks pregnant, so now, she is probably about 3-4 months along. Sending best wishes for a lifetime of happiness with this one!

Poor Kim, I think Kanye will survive...

The Immoral Minority: Kim Kardashian not allowed to fly to celebrate her...: Courtesy of the Daily Mail :   Kim Kardashian wasn't there to celebrate Kanye West's birthday.  While pals like Beyonce and Ja...

What's in a Name?

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/jackie-pilossoph/should-you-change-your-na_b_3312025.html

OK, I didn't change my name. I've only been married once, and I wasn't divorced, so maybe I see it differently.

I do know a woman who didn't change her last name after her first divorce. She kept her ex husbands name for all the 2 yrs and 3 months it took for her to remarry. It wasn't until after her 2nd divorce that she changed her last name. She threatened to change it back to her 1st ex husband's name, "for their children," but she chose to change it back to her maiden name.

WHEW, thank GOD! Can you imagine how much MORE of a HASSLE it would have been when he died, having to prove when they divorced? History shows she would have tried something!

For THAT, I thank you. :-)

just 12 things? I can think of more....

Stories with Paige

https://vimeo.com/59636962

I absolutely LOVE this woman! she is one of my ALL TIME favorite people in life. She is one of the most NON judgmental I know, and just an all around awesome woman! ENJOY!!

Relationships with our children...

Relationships with our children...

I absolutely love this! I have always spoken to my kids about things. I recently had a conversation with my son about something that was going on with him. I asked him what he thought a punishment would be, and he said "nothing. I'm sorry and I won't do it again." I took him at his word, along with a "pinky promise" and he hasn't let the situation happen again.

I've always included my kids in decisions, whether they be punishments for them or decisions I may have to make. I think it builds trust.

In theory....

http://www.bigblendedfamily.com/what-is-it-about-clothes-and-time-sharing/

I think these ideas are really great, if the ex spouses live near each other, or at least within a reasonable drive time to each other.

In our case, my former stepkids lived an airplane ride away, and we didn't always know when or if we were going to see them. This wouldn't have worked out to well for us, though at times, when we did have the kids, we would take them shopping for clothes, school supplies, books to read, or other things.

when this happened, they would pack whatever they could into their carry on's and some in their suit cases, and we would ship the rest to their (mom's) house if need be.

Back pain today...

ok, so sitting down, and standing up, and bending over are quite painful. Once I stand up, I can walk a bit, but it hurts and I can feel it, especially in my right leg. I did get new meds yesterday, Thank you my love, for going to get them. I was given 750mg of Robaxin for muscle spasms, and 800mg of Ibuprofen for pain and inflammation for sciatica. the GOOD thing is, I can take these every 6-8 hours as needed, THANK GOD. I still use the cold/warm compresses. Yesterday I walked to my love's house, next door, literally, and did some knee to chest exercises. I did 10 and fell right to sleep, LOL...This is just crazy and the WORSE it's ever been in ALL the years since being diagnosed. So that's THAT update  2pm couldn't come soon enough, LOL, next medicine time, 8pm...

For us Diabetics!

GREAT article!

http://www.bigblendedfamily.com/how-to-manage-disappointment-with-your-exs-household/

My husband dealt with this. His ex thought she "knew" what was going on in our home, whether the kids were visiting or not, and 9 times out of 10, would email my husband about it. SO ridiculous....yet if he mentioned something that SHE would tell him, she accused him and myself of invading her privacy and ALWAYS threatened with a lawsuit or a restraining order. Goofy ass woman....

OH MY ACHING BACK....

DAMN, back pain is a BITCH!! I have so much respect for people that have chronic back pain and still do what they need to do! This is NO JOKE!

So I went to the docs yesterday, and she seems to think I pulled a muscle. She pressed on my spine and when she got to my lower back, I YELLED and flew up to the ceiling. Of course, not literally, but GEEZUS, I could have! Afterwards, I cried, it hurt so bad! I love my doc! My love jokingly called me a cry baby, I admit it, I am, LOL

I got a shot of Toradal, that stung like a bitch. the RN had to monitor me, and after about 15 minutes, just when I laid on my side on the bed in the room, he came in and said I was able to leave, when I was ready. My love helped me get up and walk. I was sent home with some medicine called Meloxicam. I took one and I'm not sure if it helped any.

I'm not supposed to stand, sit, bend for prolonged period of time. I do have to go to school tonight, so we shall see how that works.

I missed work today, but that…

Sciatica is a BITCH!

OMG, for two days now, my back has been hurting! Today, I can bend some, but not much... it's also hard to stand. Yesterday was horrible and I had class last night and took a few minutes before I could actually stand up from sitting down for 2 1/2 hours. Thank GOD my daughter is taking classes with me, and she helped me by carrying my book bag and lap top. We have school tonight, to make up for  having Memorial Day off.

Life has been good. My poor love has had to take time off work, but will be going back soon. It sucks because he's had to cut into his vacation time later on in the year.

My son got to see his older half brother for the first time in 12 yrs. He hadn't seen him since he was 4 yrs old! They started talking on Insta Gram I think it was, and his brother picked him up on Sunday and took him for a burger. He said he had a good time, but he was shy and thought he didn't talk much, but he hopes they can get together again. So do I.

Gotta start getting busy, TCB…

School, car and whatever :-)

WOW! Wednesday evening was the first on campus class my daughter and I had for our Paralegal Studies course, and it was a LOT of information. I'm not sure if it was all NOTE worthy, but I sure know it was a lot of info. The Instructor, GENE, was pretty cool, laid back, soft spoken, chill.

My daughter and I had already started our online classes in College Math and College and English Comp. I do like the English Comp class. I had to write a 250 word essay, and I went over. I hope that doesn't "cost" me. I did try to take some words and sentences out, but I just couldn't get it down to 250...I had a LOT to say, LOL...

Anyway, I'm pretty excited that if all goes well, we will graduate with our AA in August 2014!

Another good note, I got a call today and my car loan was approved, and Thank you to my love for helping me out here.  According to the finance guy, PHU, I am now the proud owner of a 2010 Toyota Venza. It's really fun to drive, has a lot of pick up …

Orientation...

SO, yesterday, my daughter and I had school orientation! It was fun, not really what I expected, not really sure what it was I expected, but it was great to see Elaine and Jerry.  We are both so excited to start school and start a new adventure!! Towards the end, each group had to do a skit, reteach, about things we learned in our "class." I wasn't sure how it was going to come off, because our group was so disorganized, so I don't really know how it went. It did bother me that one girl who WAS there, then had to leave, didn't participate in anything we were doing, decided she was going to take over Sarah's position in the skit. Sarah ended up not participating because of it, but apparently this girl and another one are friends and the other girl told her what to do. Sarah wasn't happy, neither was I, but I didn't know what happened, so that was irritating. Other than that, it was interesting to meet our teacher (one of them).

After my love got home, …

DeadBeat Father....

My daughter is now 19, almost twenty. BEFORE she turned 18, my ex was ordered to pay current support, and $10.00 on arrears. Here is the current amount he has in arrears...that he owes $10 a month on...
Past Due Support Installment Due:$ 10.00
Total Past Due Support:1$ 25,851.83

Penalty Phase-VERDICT WATCH

WHO the hell cares that, even adter saying twice that she wanted to DIE, that #JodiArias now wants to live?? I'm sure Travis Alexander wanted to live as well, and had major plans for his life to help make society a better place, but the CONVICTED murdering DEMON, #JodiArias , atjodiannarias (twitter) took HIS rights away. I HOPE the jury comes back with a verdict of DEATH and I can ONLY WISH that #JodiArias, atjodiannarias (twitter), would be given the same MANNER of death she imposed upon Travis Alexander, stabbed 29 times, throat sliced from ear to ear, and a shot to the head....