Fiction v Non Fiction

In May of 1997, my husbands ex wife and I had about a 45 minute conversation after I had my son. I remember when I hung up, he asked sarcastically, "wow, you guys best friends now?" LOL I told him I had my guard up the whole time.

During this conversation, my daughters bio dad came up. This is a man whom she had never met in her 3.5 yrs. We lived with him for the first 7 months of her life and for about 5 months before I had her. The reason I left him was due to drugs, and cheating. That was 5 yrs ago. Flash forward to March 2002.

In an email to my husband, on March 5 2002, Juanita wrote, " ...I guess I should also check on Pats previous man you know the father of (*my daughter*), the one who dealt drugs out of the country and was arrested and thrown in jail for drug charges and child abuse...."

My husband responded with, "...Another clear example of talking about something you know nothing about. But, to give you a 'heads up' your original email will be printed and sent to "the father of (*my daughter*) along with a note that we are 100% supportive of which ever rode he decides to take with this. I believe you have stepped over the line with this and it will be his decision what he wants to do about it. He is not EVER mentioned in any emails or letters by me. YOU are the one that has mentioned him in yours and you know nothing about him or his life, and neither do we..."

Juanita went on to say that my ex's story was told to her by me, on the phone, excuse me while I laugh. I already figured out she was crazy, so I just read more of what she had to tell my husband. He had told her that I had never spoken to her on the phone about my ex and that I rarely if ever spoke to HER at all. She responded with, "...Pat cried to me on the phone about 5 years ago telling me about him. How else would I know that he was in jail for selling drugs..." HA HA! NOT from me, I assure you!

I finally responded to her bullshit and lies.

HI Juanita,

You have obviously misunderstood what I told you about my daughters father. I checked the recorded phone conversations back from 5 yrs ago.

You said to Keith the other day that about 5 yrs ago, I "cried" to you about my daughters father. First of all, that's wrong. Cry? PLEASE...my daughters father was mentioned during a normal conversation we, you and I, were having, about the birth of mine and Keith's son (when I just got out of the hospital), visitation arrangements for your 2 kids for summer that year and who our son, your son and my daughter look like.

You also asked Keith how else would you know that my daughters father was in jail for selling drugs. NOT from me, I assure you. During our conversation on May 28th, 1997, I told you that my daughter looked exactly like her dad and half brother. I told you that she doesn't even know them, and you made a comment about her not seeing them ever. I told you she didn't, that he was an ass and that criminal charges were filed against him," and this is where you obviously have misunderstood what I said, even thought at the time you "sounded" like you understood. YES, I did say he was a druggie, and I told you that I didn't need that and you said, "but he is still her dad." Our conversation, like I said, was May 28, 1997.

On May 30, 1997, the criminal prosecution against him was set for Sept 23, 1997. The People of the State of CA vs My daughters Father. It was for FAILURE TO PAY CHILD SUPPORT. The case was continued for arraignment and or sentencing to Oct 30, 1997. AT THAT time, he was place on diversion, he had to pay a restitution fee, he had to pay the remaining arrearages and current support and he was to apply to have his drivers license released, since it had been revoked for failure to pay, and he had to reappear in court on 10-14-98 for a progress report. According to THOSE court papers of 10-14-08, the criminal action against him was dismissed terminated or completed, because he had complied.

So for as much as you would like to accuse me of saying that I told you my ex had "dealt drugs out of the country and was arrested and thrown in jail for drug charges and child abuse,"  it is just not true. I don't know anything more about him or his life, than the last time I saw him in June of 1994, during a visitation day with our daughter, and then again in Feb or so of 1998 at court were we sat together and laughed together, and guess what? Keith was there too!

Another thing that is really out in left field is your comments how you don't want YOUR kids subjected to my "previous life." This is one of the most rediculous things I have EVER heard you say. Incredible that you would think my daughters father was any kind of threat to your kids, when he has had no contact with his OWN child since she was 10 months old. HIS child will be 9 this year.

I don't know why your brought my daughters father up to begin with anyway. He has no bearing whatsoever on your kids, although I can't say the same about your buddy, Daniel Solis, who HAS been thrown in jail for drug trafficking (and CHARGED court cases ECR1101 and CR131641) and HAS stayed in your home and HAS been around your kids.

I also remember a conversation you had with Keith where you told him to NOT be surprised if your son "smokes pot" and how your own niece smokes pot and your sister lets her (and your sister does it right along with her), and how your niece has been in juvenile hall for shoplifting. I remember hearing Keith tell you that if he ever caughter or found out your niece was giving your son and daughter any kind of drugs or anything, he would be calling the cops. I remember you telling him that he had no right to do that.

Before you start throwing accusations around people that you know NOTHING about,  (my daughters father and his life) maybe you should look in your own back yard. VERY rarely do I email you ro talk to you about anything, but I am sick of this particular thing that is going on where you bring up my daughters father when he has nothing to do with anything.

Hopefully this will be the end of your talk of my daughters father (and of myself and of my kids, thank you very much... hey I can dream can't I?) in your conversations with Keith.

THIS is being sent to my daughters father as well.

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